our community, should i emphasize our gals should change the way they think-their mindset.
most of them whom i know, whether my close friends, barely know them, relatives, who ever my path has crossed them has so much in common. they always ask the same old history centuries questions.
1) back then when i was in my early 20s, - have u got a boyfriend? if no, shall i introduce you one
2) when i was attached, i was asked when is your big day? huh? only a day celebration? so simple??who do yu engage for your makeup artist? decor?
3) after barely a month of being a wife - are you pregnant? thank god! i conceived immediately, i would not being spared the agony of getting too concerned pple recommending types of jamus and how to go about having babies???!
4) and the most nonsensical question i had been asked when i was heavily pregnant with najmi, days before delivery, Z came to me and i thought she wanted to ask when is my due date. she asked me when my 3rd one coming??! crazy!
good pple, you can show your concern by shutting up your mouths, not asking insensitive questions that might hurt others.
imagine, if that person has just broken up, and you plan to introduce someone.
imagine, if that person could not afford lavish ceremony, wouldnt you be giving her more pressure, what more the big day is just round the corner.
imagine, if that person could not conceived for whatever possibilities, and you recommending ways to have babies?
imagine, the baby in my tummy was short lived and not able to see the world on time, and you asking when's my 3rd one?
please, you must have forgotthen the key factor - Qada' Qadar - fate!
if you understand that the one above is the mastermind of what you plan, you would not be so gullible to keep on asking these ancient questions.
be sensibe, be sensitive, be kind, please dont ask, you never know how much it hurts.